dear struggling friend,
before diving deep, i want to tell you that i have struggled (and have days that i still do) with my own insecurities. this is just me sharing my heart with you. it’s taken a constant and consistent pursuit of Jesus to realize that with Him I’m enough. xoxo
let’s flashback to my freshman year of high school: i was sitting in art class attempting to work on a project, but my focus was constantly shifted to the table of three pretty girls who sat at a table directly in front of me. why can’t my hair be as shiny as hers? my legs are so fat….how are her’s so skinny? does she wear makeup or is her skin really that flawless?
what exactly was i doing? i was comparing myself to them, while also telling my own self that i was not enough. that i wasn’t as valuable, because i didn’t look like them or act like them. that i needed more, so i could be more. you know what i learned since then? that these are all LIES that the enemy whispered in my ear to keep me from experiencing the true love of Christ. the true love that fills me with the Holy Spirit. the true love that makes me enough, because He died for me.
i wasn’t the only one that Satan whispered these same lies to. if you read Genesis 3:5, you see that the serpent is tempting Eve with fruit by telling her she will “be like God.”
the enemy is stating that Eve is lacking something inside. he is implying that Eve isn’t measuring up & that she isn’t enough. and Eve, who was yearning to ease the ache of her insecurity that sprouted up with his lies, took the fruit and ate it. at that moment Eve immediately entered into sin from her disobedience, and she also exited out of the will of God. all because she let her insecurities determine how she reacted to a situation of temptation.
the use of our insecurities is a carefully thought out and chosen tactic welded by the enemy to keep us distracted from all the ways that Christ is enough.
so what do we do in those moments? well friend, we rest in some of these sweet truths found in God’s word about our identity in Christ:
–you are chosen and God views you as His special possession (1 Peter 2:9)
–you are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27)
–you are a child of God (John 1:12)
–you are forgiven (Ephesians 1:5)
–you do not have a spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7)
–you are loved (Romans 8:39)
–you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17)
your identity is NOT: your sin, your past, your failures, your job, your kids, your husband, your wife, your achievements, your singleness, your insecurities, your rejections, your clothes, your possessions, your personal limitations, your body type, your health, your friend group, or your struggles.
your identity is found in Christ Jesus, and His transforming power. rest in that.
after reading Genesis 3 it’s easy to see that insecurity is and always will be a part of girlhood/womanhood. but, listen closely, it does not have to be a part of your faith journey. it does not have to be your identity.
remember friends you are deeply loved by the One who created you. live in the truth that you are cherished and valuable to the King of Kings. as a sister in Christ i hope to encourage you & let you know i’m praying for you. i also encourage other women who have struggled with this to share their experiences with the young girls in their churches. let us live out the call found in Titus 2: to be mentors and to “teach what is good.”